Teaching RESPECT with “Respect Bracelets”

We have really been struggling at the Born house and it all boils down to the kids having a lack of RESPECT.  We define respect as acting kindly, speaking kindly, and obeying immediately (with no “buts”!).  About a week ago, I started brainstorming a way to hold them accountable and help them learn how to respect others, without constantly correcting them and driving myself crazy!   I literally felt like I was addressing this every five  minutes!!  Well, here’s what I came up with.  Respect bracelets!  (or tailor it to whatever behavior you are working on)

Each child gets a bracelet made of a pipe cleaner and 10 plastic beads.  Make sure you bend over the ends so that they don’t poke the kids!  Throughout the day, anytime a child shows disrespect (remember the definition above), have them give you a bead.  At first, you will need to explain why they are losing a bead, but before long, you can have them tell you the reason.  Collect the beads in your pocket, or wear your own respect bracelet to put them on.  Before they go to bed, check the bracelets together.  If they still have all ten beads, they get a “big surprise”!  I do this, so that it’s flexible for me.  I get to choose whatever works for that day.  It might be 15 minutes of wii time, 2 pieces of candy, a trip to the park, etc….whatever works for you!  If they have 5 or less, they get a consequence (again, determined each night by you).  Anywhere between 6-9 gets them a “small surprise”.  As they get used to this new system, you can adjust the amount of beads required for each level, or even take out the “small surprise” level.


Benefits of using the bracelets:
1. Because it’s worn- they don’t loose track of it, it’s always with them so things can be dealt with immediately, and it’s a constant reminder of what they are working on

2. You can keep track of the behavior without feeling like you’re constantly disciplining your children…so much less stressful for both parents and kids!

3. Once one behavior has been dealt with, you can move on to something else that needs work!

So far, this has worked wonderfully!!!  They have jumped right in and love the fact that they can earn surprises.  They have lost very few beads and the stress level at the Born house has decreased dramatically =)  Give it a try and let me know what you think!

February 7, 2012 in Homeshooling
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4 Responses

  1. I am so excited this is working for you! I need to go get some beads!!! And I pinned this!!!

  2. Love this idea! Going to do implement this weekend! Thanks for sharing.

  3. We just made these tonight – in conjunction with our family study for “Our 24 Family Ways” by Clay Clarkson… we just finished “We honor and obey our parents in the Lord with a respectful attitude,” and started up “We listen to correction and accept discipline with a submissive spirit.” It goes perfectly with both – and tonight after dinner, each boy made their own bracelet… and each promptly lost a bead. They understood right away what was happening, and the rest of the evening was delightful! They both vowed to keep all their beads tomorrow!

  4. Pinned this too! Great idea!